Divorce can be a confusing, stressful, and depressing time for children. Knowing
that their parents are on the verge of splitting up for good can be both
devastating and traumatizing; an ordeal which has potential, damaging
repercussions that may affect their future. As parents, it’s understandable
to feel unsure about how to approach your children on the subject and
give them the right support. Ultimately, it’s the adults’
responsibility to educate their children and properly guide them throughout
the transition with love and tenderness.
Breaking the News
Being honest with your children and telling them the truth is the best
approach. They are entitled to understand the reasons why a divorce is
imminent. Of course, discussing the topic with your children depends on
their age. As long as you remind them no matter what changes in their
lives, the one thing that will remain the same is your love and support.
Present a United Front
It can be difficult for adults who are going through a hurtful situation,
such as infidelity, to act cordially with one another. Don’t argue
in front of them, refrain from discussing your ex-spouse’s personal
behavior, and look on the bright side. With respect and restraint toward
working together, showing your children the ability to cooperate throughout
the transition benefits everyone involved and effectively teaches them
Help Children Express Their Feelings
Divorce can feel overwhelming for children. The loss of a parent, the loss
of their home, perhaps the loss of the life they’ve been familiar
with for so long. Encourage your children to share their true feelings
and invest in really listen to what they have to say. Constantly reassure
them that everything will be alright in the end.
Take Care of Yourself
Don’t forget that adults need tender, love, and care. Having an exercise
regimen relieves stress and frustration, along with maintaining a healthy
diet. Surround yourself with positive people, whether it’s close
friends, family members, or loved ones who have gone through the divorce
process as well. Seeking professional help from a therapist can be tremendously
The Big Picture
When issues arise, take a step back and remember what’s truly important.
Having an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse throughout your children’s
lives, fulfill long-term goals toward your happiness, and maintaining
a positive attitude will help in the long run.
If you need experienced legal assistance in your divorce in Birmingham,
contact Gossman Law Firm, LLC today.