You and your former spouse genuinely tried to resolve issues in your marriage, but it just wasn’t meant to be. You’ve come to the mutual conclusion that divorce is now your only feasible option.
You’ve heard that litigated divorce procedures can be long-winded, stressful and acrimonious. Are there any viable alternatives?
In short, the answer is yes. There are a number of routes that you can go. If you and your former spouse are still on civil terms, you might want to consider divorce mediation as a way to significantly reduce the stress of your separation.
You might be able to keep your costs down
You and your former spouse need to reach a fair financial settlement at the end of the divorce. If you go down the route of litigation, then the court will decide how property is to be divided via the equitable distribution doctrine. However, nobody knows your circumstances as well as you and your former spouse. Is it really in your best interests to let the court decide such matters? Or can you and your ex put your heads together and come up with a fair solution between you? During mediation, a neutral third party can assist you in obtaining this goal, without the need for formal court hearings and costly legal fees.
A productive mindset
Divorce is often perceived as an adversarial process. Former couples can go in with a “battle-ready” mindset. The truth is, there are generally no winners at the end of a lengthy legal battle. Mediation allows you both to enter proceedings with a cooperative frame of mind. Who knows, you might both be able to retain a friendship once the dust has settled.
As you consider your options for divorce, don’t rule out mediation. With the appropriate legal guidance behind you, both you and your spouse can come through the other side feeling optimistic about the future.